Emotional wellness / intelligence is the concept that a number of areas like communication, interpersonal skills attitudes, responses, management styles and psychology embrace.  Emotional Intelligence enables us to be more effective in our personal life and work.

Emotional wellness / intelligence embraces and draws from numerous other branches of behavioural, emotional and communication theories such as NLP(neuro linguistic programming, transactional analysis, and empathy. By developing our EI in these areas and the four Emotional Quotient (EQ) domains we can become more productive and successful at what we do, and  help others to be more productive and successful too.

The process and outcomes of EI development also contain many elements known to reduce stress for individuals and organizations, by decreasing conflict, improving relationships and understanding and increasing stability, continuity and harmony.  Emotional Intelligence is a concept that has only come to fruition fairly recently around the 1990’s.

It is the reason why some leaders prosper.  EQ can be developed like character building and adds to people’s success.  Peak age for emotional intelligence is in the 40s and there is no difference between genders.

Daniel Goleman fine-tuned his five domains of emotional wellness / intelligence and twenty-five emotional competencies in 1998 to 4 domains with 18 competencies.

  1. Self awareness – emotional self awareness, accurate self assessment and self confidence
  2. Self management – emotional self control, transparency (trustworthiness), adaptability, achievement orientation, initiative, optimism and conscientiousness.
  3. Social Awareness – empathy, organisational awareness, service orientation.
  4. Relationship management – inspirational leadership, influence, developing others, change catalyst, conflict management, building bonds, teamwork and collaboration

In schools today part of their curriculum is social and emotional learning (SEL), which is becoming as important as Maths and English.  EI provides essential skills not only to become a great leader, a successful person; it is in fact an essential skill for living.

In schools:

  • Early Primary – children learn to recognize and accurately label their emotions and how they lead them to react
  • Upper Primary – children should be able to learn how to read non-verbal cues to how someone else feels; this is achieved through empathy that is taught in their primary years.
  • Junior High School – students are able to analyse what creates stress for them and what motivates their best performance.
  • Senior High School – students are taught skills in conflict resolution with listening and talking to achieve a win-win situation by negotiation and compromise instead of having the situation escalate dramatically.

This increased learning can be attributed to improvements in attention and working memory, key functions of the prefrontal cortex.  This strongly suggests that neuroplasticity, the shaping of the brain through repeated experience, plays a key role in the outcome of our children of the future.

Now that we have the gist of Emotional Intelligence how can we improve ours?   With the right practices emotional intelligence can be refined.  So our journey will consist of looking at all areas of emotional intelligence and discovering where improvements can be made.

“There is an old fashioned word  for the body of skills that emotional wellness / intelligence represents: character…. The bedrock of character is self-discipline; the virtuous life, as philosophers since Aristotle have observed, is based on self-control.

A related keystone of character is being able to motivate and guide oneself, whether in doing homework, finishing a job, or getting up in the morning.  So join our forum and help yourself and others to gather that self-control and achieve all that you can by molding your emotional wellness intelligence for your success.

“You Are Your Thoughts”